Ladies
As mentioned before a few ladies and myself gather on Wednesday evening to search out truth from Gods word on who we are as wives, mothers, and daughters of God. We continued last night with discussion on contention. Proverbs for women (scriptures listed on blog) detail contention. Contention is a very destructive tool the enemy uses in marriages and families. The definition of contention is -given to argument- now that definition will either alarm you or disarm you! “I don’t argue,” or “My goodness i always argue!” I say “disarm you” because if you are in denial about an area of sin that is present in your life you are disarmed! The enemy freely wages war and you have no ground to stand against him! As my daughter frequently quotes, “You know what the worse kind of lying is, lying to yourself!” Therefore it becomes a blind spot in your life and ground for the enemy. Back to contention- Proverbs 21:19 says,”It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman.” When i think of wilderness i think of a place of wandering , kind of homeless and like a tent dweller! The writer of this Proverb was a some what wealthy man and this is his illustration of preference to living with an arguing wife! Contention stirs up anger- also in Proverbs, which also leads to a whole slew of scriptures on anger giving satan a foothold and leading to sin. If you know you are a contentious person Praise the Lord! Identified sin can be conquered! If you think your not contentious ask your spouse, kids, or family they will tell you! (If they are not afraid!) haha but really it’s true! If you are well into your walk with the Lord, ask He is faithful to speak. 
Then dive into the Word understand your enemy-contention- and go the opposite of all that contention is, which means repent and allow Holy Spirit to change your mind.
